Remember when you were a spoiled kid who thought of yourself as a king? It was the time when you demanded everything and your parents would try their best to please you. Call it affection but a child’s exuberance and confidence are what make people treat him like a king.
Just as a crown creates an aura around a king, if you believe that you are a king, this belief will radiate outward and will affect people. This belief will then make people think that you have some kind of reason to feel so confident like a king with no limits on what he can ask or accomplish. This same strategy was also used by the famous and “noble” explorer named Christopher Columbus to finance his explorations.
According to the biography written by Columbus’ son, their family was of noble lineage that even traces back to Constantinople. However none of this illustrious background is true. Columbus made up his own background just to raise his social rank and meet the kings and nobles who would potentially help him in his explorations. Eventually with the help of queen Isabella of Spain, Columbus was able to start his journey.
Now, how could a son of a cheese vendor who knew nothing of navigation was able to persuade the queen of Spain to start his own voyage across the sea? Well, for one thing Columbus is good at the way he carries himself. With the way he projected his confidence, he was able to charm the nobles thinking that Columbus is also a noble.
However, this is only half and of the whole process. You may have the confidence of a king, but do you have the ability to support it? In the end, if you fail, you will end up much less of a man you originally were. If you treat yourself as a king even if you’re not, then you’re a king, wielding a double edged sword.
Dan Vitan
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I agree that having too much confidence without having the ability to support it is pretty much worthless. People end up hating you because you're too full of yourself when you're not even all that good.
Trixie Cruz
His18 - O
Yes, I second that too. If you have the guns, show it. You should act in line with what you have. Like dressing up, if that's who you are, your fashion style will bring it out. But if you go out as a poser. People will not only think you are one but they'll hate you for not being true to yourself.
Dexter Tanengsy, Hi18-N
I agree with the others. False confidence is useless confidence. You need something to backup your "crown" or else no one will take you seriously. Once you do have that "something", it's time to flaunt it. Not too much though or else it would be seen as arrogance. People don't respect overconfidence.
Marvin Velasco
Hi18 N
Mike Tyson is a good example of both the advantage and disadvantage of this law. Early in his career Mike had a confidence a killer who can knock anybody out with a single punch. Because of this, his opponents were afraid of him and can’t even look at him during the “touching of gloves”. It was inevitable that his opponents would eventually lose via KO due to fear. However as the years passed and Mike’s boxing prowess was gone, he still had the same confidence. In one of his last fights he still had the courage to say that he wants Lennox’s heart (his opponent at that time). Unfortunately he lost to Lennox and people hated him even more.
Can you think of other persons who used confidence to their success or used it to their downfall?
Confidence is, like what my Law prof said, the one thing that will carry you through everything. For instance, being an Ateneo graduate will give one confidence when applying for work. This confidence will then be converted into an act that s/he can conquer everything. The confidence together with the act will generate an impression to the bosses that s/he deserves the position.
Just like what Dan said, the ability to support the said confidence is needed in order to succeed in this law.
Pure confidence will only take one at the beginning of his/her dream. But confidence with an act will surely sustain that dream to last for a long time.
Miriam R. Reyes
Hi18-O
Basically, command authority.
If you don't assert yourself, nobody will take you seriously. If you want to be king, you have to act the part. But, as they say, it can't be all lightning and fury. You've got to have something to show for being in the high position you're in.
So, we can go beyond acting and in to being, if you want to be completely effective.
I remember being told that if you act like something, you will be that something. This actually holds true only when you act the part well enough to the point that you emulate what is admirable about whatever it is you like to act as. Because as time wears on, those mannerisms and values will become yours. It's not arrogance, per se. But I perceive it more to the lines of "Imitation is the highest form of flattery". But in this case, you go beyond flattering and head on to actual becoming...
I agree with how you put it, it's all "how you carry yourself." It's all in the image you project. Perception is reality in the minds of others-- and sometimes, perception BECOMES reality because of that. =)
Eric Andres
HI 18 Section N
I think that the purpose has been a bit missed here. Acting royal has been confused with being confident, and confident with situationally confident.
A breakdown:
Situational confidence is what most of us have. We are good at one or two things and bad with much of the rest. Situational confidence cannot follow a person everywhere and if you are only situationally confident, your confidence ends at the boundary of that comfort zone.
Core Confidence would have more to do with an indomitable belief in oneself, and this confidence is the one that will radiate out all the time. It can come from being good at one thing or another, but it is mainly a deep understanding of oneself...You know your limits; which is why you don't tend to see it in younger people... we are still figuring ourselves out.
Acting like royalty as described in the book imo, is more than just core confidence, because as people have said you can always come off as a pompous Jack*ss. It has to do with how you carry yourself. Not self important, but dignified, graceful, poised and with RESPECT. This person is royalty and is not leering down but gently floating above the fray.
well ..
i agree with this law.
because if you feel yourself a king or royal so you will fully try to make your every thing as royal and every act as royal.
in last
you will reach 80 % of royality by this thinking .
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