“How you carry yourself reflects what you think of yourself.”
Not everyone has the credentials or royal background to become a king. When faced with this problem, easy, act like a king instead. As long as you believe in yourself, you are worthy to do so. If you are confident, it will shine outward for other people to notice. In effect, people may think that you have enough reason to act like a king and can be inspired to give you respect, admiration, and loyalty. With confidence and presence, you can overcome limitations and separate yourself from the crowd.
Christopher Columbus was a former merchant and son of a cheese vendor. Still, he believed he was destined for great things and acted accordingly. Columbus had little knowledge in navigation, sailing ships, and leading a group of men. But he was able to earn respect from the king of Portugal, and had Queen Isabella fund his voyages because of the way he projected himself.
Louis-Philippe was once king of Paris. He had the royal background, but he was a “bourgeois king.” He wanted everyone to be equal. Instead of depicting a kingly image, he acted like a common and ordinary man. People started despising him, some even pushed him around.
This rule must not be taken to extreme. By humiliating others, soaring to high, and being vulgar or arrogant, you are asking for trouble. It is important to be regal, noble, and dignified, as if destined to wear a crown, right?
Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 – K
62 comments:
This can connote very indecent notions about a person if done to the extreme especially in our time right now. If this was found out by other people than you will be labeled as nothing but plastic and social climber trying his / her best to impress and be someone he is not. but then again, whatever works for you, right? i believe that this a risk if to be done here in our social setting.
i'd rather go for the "be yourself" attitude than just pretending to be someone you are not just to be respected and all that.
Hey Raf! I appreciate you being the first to comment in my blog! Thanks. It is true that this law should really not be done to extreme. While some people may view someone negatively if that person acted like a king, other people can also be impressed by this. Like in school, I admire students who are confident and secure in themselves. I don't automatically get this "ang yabang naman nito" thought. That is why it is up to the person to project in a way that inspires respect from other people. Arrogance is different from confidence. And in response to the last thing you said, acting like a king does not necessarily mean you are pretending to be someone you are not. Of course, if someone were to act like a king, then he or she must believe that he or she really is one. By acting like a king, one should first consider himself or herself as one. :)
Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
i agree that we have to act a certain (dignified, respectable) way in order to be taken seriously -- we must respect to be respected. power is a give and take relationship, it is rooted in the commerce of exchange.
when i read this rule, i was reminded of The Secret. I didn't watch or read the whole movie / book but i understand that if you want something, you have to marry yourself to the idea and will it to happen and, eventually, it will come true. sort of like the universe conspires to help you achieve something.
i really appreciate this law. It undermines upbringing, culture, constraints of economy etc and merely tackles the frame of mine. There are some people who aren't capable of believing in themselves -- some people who are victims of their upbringing, their nature, etc -- who are bound to restrain themselves, etc. But this law recognizes the possibility in everyone which can't be misinterpreted.
but we have to ask -- what about the people who believe they're not meant to be anything. what about the people who subscribe to the "mahirap lang AKO" mentality ? this law still touches base with the fact that Who we are is greatly determined by who we think we are and identity is never an easily determinable concept.
the law is vague in defining what Royalty is -- how do the royals act and what do they believe in themselves? what sort of confidence is appropriate in ourselves -- what sort of confidence inspires others to treat you as a leader? the law doesn't define its parameters and, in that sense, it fails.
- kyra ballesteros Hi18 K
This law is like what we studied in Psychology, it's called Self Fulfilling Prophesy. According to Wikipedia it is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true.
Everyone should believe that he/she is destined for great things. It'll help people be happier. No one will stop striving for better things because they believe that they deserve something better.
But, of course, there will be negative effects, if everyone believed that he/she is "destined to wear a crown" it would somehow be difficult to socialize, since we end up thinking that we are better than everyone else. Kids become more spoiled and start demanding for more.
Clarice Manuel
Hi18 K
To Kyra:
In the first part of your comment, I remembered the golden rule: "Do unto others what you want others to do unto you." I mean, how can one gain respect from others if he or she humiliates others and puts them down? In acting like a true king, one must also need to respect others. One must be regal and dignified in his actions. Another key factor just as you mentioned was belief in oneself. Remember, Christopher Columbus was a son of a cheese vendor. He had no clue in sailing and leading. Did he let these stop him? No. It's all in the mind. Of course, having background and credentials helps. But if you have nothing, then might as well believe in yourself! Columbus felt he was destined for greatness, and he was able to sell himself. How else was he able to get high and powerful people to help him in his voyages? I like the word you used in the third paragraph, "possibility." Anyone can consider himself or herself as king. There are certainly no limits because the potential exists in everybody. In response to what you said about parameters, I guess there is no clear and standard way of being confident to be royal. We are all different from each other. I guess only the person can tell what amount of confidence and self-belief is enough to make him or her a king.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
To Clarice:
I like what you said about the self-fulfilling prophecy. Belief in one's self is truly important. Just like my reply to Kyra, it's all in the mind. Believing in yourself can lead you to great things. This belief and confidence serves as the driving force to motivate one towards success. It doesn't matter if you're poor, etc. But once again, one must possess the right qualities too. Being vulgar or conceited will not get the job done. In response to the last few things you said, one does not automatically reach the point of having a hard time socializing and thinking that he or she is better than everyone else, as long as he or she acts the right way. That is why, this law must not be taken to extreme. Again, arrogance is different from confidence. One can certainly still be king while also being on the good side of others.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
Philip, you said "how can one gain respect from others if he or she humiliates others and puts them down?"
What about those in power before? Weren't there kings (literal kings, this time) who were mean (humiliates others, etc.) but still had power and remained in power?
What about instilling fear into your people? Would that fear be coupled with respect?
Others are too scared to approach you, so they will follow you, but they don't necessarily like you. Is that still part of the law? You ACT like a king, and you may not be well-liked for it, but you will be treated like a king. Isn't that still a good thing, in a sense?
Kyra, why does the law fail if it fails to define how you should act like a king? There's no manual for this. Do you mean there should be guidelines for the effective following of the law?
Theresa Rosario Tan
hi18k
To Theresa:
Can you name some of those kings who were mean but still remained in power? And can you also tell me what exactly they did and how the people responded to this? I just want to have a clearer idea of your point, thanks!
Anyway,in response to what you said,sure there could have been kings who were mean and who could have humiliated their people, thus evoking fear in them. Yes these kings could have been cruel and forced their people to follow them. In effect, the people could have been scared and thus decided to just treat the king like one even if it was against their will. I get that. Yes the kings could have been treated like kings, and that may already be enough for you. But for me, there is a right way as to how one should act in order to be a king and in order to be treated like one. In my understanding of this law, one must act in a confident, regal, and dignified way to be treated like one. And about what you said, do you think the people who treated mean kings like kings really wanted to do this? Do you think that if they were given a choice, they would still treat their kings as kings? Maybe when the mean king turns his back, his people really despise him and hate him. Don't you think that being treated like a king is much more fulfilling and rewarding if you know you deserved it? Wouldn't it make you happy and satisfied if you knew that your people treated you like a king because this is something they WANTED to do? That this is something that naturally came from them? Don't you think a king will have better relationships with his people if he acts like a genuine one? You may think that simply being treated like a king is enough and what counts, that how the king got his people to do it does not matter. But I truly believe that it is better to be treated like a king because one inspired his people to do so, not because he forced them. At the end of the day, do you think a mean king will be able to sleep well at night? I believe that kings who act accordingly will be more successful and better off.
And also, there is a bigger picture to what you said. Have you already considered, people revolting? People overthrowing the mean king and replacing him with a better one? People thinking of plots against the mean king? Do you think that a mean king will be completely successful in ruling his people? That everything will be alright until the end?
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
I agree with you Philip that this law must not be taken to extreme. In most things, especially with regards to power, there should be a limitation. There shouldn't really be an absolute power wherein a king can do whichever he likes. It is true that these kings should be respected and honored, but not to the point that they would think highly of themselves and look down on others as lesser human beings. Besides, the law clearly states that one has to ACT like a king to be treated like one. Therefore, the king who truly deserves to be treated like one is that who doesn't only think of his personal gains, but also what's best for his people
Tom Manahan
Hi 18-K
i agree with you, tom and philip. if you go too extreme, people will not be able to relate to you and you won't be able to garner their loyalties as easily as you're able to gain their respect.
The self fulfilling prophecy mentioned is a great insight into how this law can be played out by real people even today. i also think that by adhering to the golden rule, one is also subscribing to one of the Laws that says you should let others think they too can be powerful like you. By treating others as kings, you lessen the possibility of them hating you or being sourly jealous of you since they think you're not selfish in your glory or wtvr.
monica ang, L
To Philip:
the law was about acting a certain way to be treated a corresponding way but it failed to mention how -- the subjectivity of how to go about acting like a royal is the failing because, as a law, it doesn't guide us how to act.
but i was aware, at the time, of this limitation -- how one acts to achieve respect is grounded in context, culture, etc. i was merely pointing out the chinks in the armor XD
but i think we're basically in accord.
kyra ballesteros Hi18K
To theresa:
the nature of the law was instruction. in this sense, because of the nature of the idea, the law cannot describe a universal, effective way of acting like a royal in order to gain respect. that was the failing. :)
kyra ballesteros hi18K
Wow! That was a lot of constructive dialogue. Clearly both factions raised valid points.
From the title of the law, "Be Royal IN YOUR OWN FASHION: Act Like A King to Be Treated Like One," we can already see that the law was written in a way that should probably be accepted as a subjective "universal" instruction. I highlighted the phrase "IN YOUR OWN FASHION" because how an individual chooses to be royal really depends on his or her set of ideologies. The argumentative dialogue in this blog, in a way, shows that their are subjective views on how acting and being royal is. For some, royalty is seen as something that can be attained through respectable regal means, while for others it may be the slightly harsher I'm-in-command approach. So it really depends on how the person wants to pull this off. I agree that this law shouldn't be done in extremes.
To Tom:
I like how you put great emphasis on a king acting accordingly, that there is a right and proper way for one to act in order to be treated like a king. I also like your point on a king thinking of his people more than his or her personal gains. The things you mentioned are the same things that came to my mind when I read about this law. I have said it many times and I will say it again that being regal and dignified are important qualities one should have in order to gain respect from the others because having these traits can greatly inspire others to give respect.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
To Kyra:
Oh yes, I understand where you are coming from and what point you are making. I am aware of the chinks you mentioned but we are still very much in accord. :)
However, I would just like to say some things in response to what you said. Yes it could be unclear to people as to how being royal should be acted out because of people's subjective views and different cultures. Yes there could be some ambiguity involved. But I believe that in this world today, each person must at least have some idea of what acting in a royal, regal, and dignified way should be like. I say this because people are exposed to so many things around them, things that can shape up their mind in knowing how to act. For example, there are Church teachings that speak of moral and immoral acts. This can be tied up with what I said about acting in a regal and dignified manner because people become aware of what they should or should not do, whether what they are doing is just or not. Also, there are so many forms of mass media that give people an idea of how to act. While it may be true that mass media does not always necessarily depict reality, it can still present to people ways of acting accordingly. Also, even just from parents or other elderly people, we get an idea of how to act and not act. In short, people must really have some idea of how to act the right way and that they are aware of this. Now people must use these thoughts, ideas, views, mindsets, etc. in their "own fashion" to be treated like a king and to be respected. Since people are different from one another, each will have his or her own style as to what method works in earning respect from others. :)
*the previous comment to Kyra was from me :)
To Paolo:
I like how you put emphasis on "be royal in your own fashion," that people have their own subjective views, etc. People should indeed find the style that fits them best in terms of acting in a royal way. However, just like I what I said to Kyra earlier, people must have at least some idea of how to act the right way because everyday, we are exposed to so many things that shape up our thinking. We have Church teachings, school, mass media, wise people, etc. So I think that people indeed have an idea of how to act the right way. You mentioned something about the harsh method. I don't think that this is being royal because for me, being royal is associated with being regal and dignified. I just think that acting like a king should be done the right and just way. Because through this, people can be more respectful. For me, people should certainly act in their own fashion but at the same time, keep in mind that their actions should be right and just.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
Hi Philip, interesting blog you've got here. Pardon my ignorance, but did you create these laws yourself? Tell me.
Anyway, I think the law's great, except that it would only work in a mature, sensible society (i.e., definitely NOT the Philippines). Try it out here and you'll get a bunch of arrogant, pig-headed "kings" (case in point: The Senior and Junior Pangandamans). :)
Overall, good job! :D Check out my blog ah. You promised! Haha!
hey franz! no, i did not create my assigned law. law 34 is one of the 48 laws of power.
i guess that with this law, one may also have to take into account the setting where it will be applied. different societies have different kinds of people who have their own set of cultural beliefs. if my understanding is right, you think that if this law ere applied in our society, people would only interpret it as arrogance? but then again, if the person seems worthy to be treated like a king and if people receive positive energy from that person, then they may respect him. it really depends on the person acting like a king and the people whom that person will be dealing with.
thank you franz! pls send me a link to your blog thanks.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
@ Philip:
(you asked ron? :P)
Your reply is more of a question of morals/ethics. I do get your point and if it were me in the king's position, I'd rather be king using the "right" way, but then not all of the people desiring power are righteous and idealistic.
And as for the mean kings, I never said the people liked them. I'm just saying the kings had power.
Understand that I approached the topic in a very simplistic, (animalistic?) lower form of human kind of way. [Power in however form no matter how I got it and no matter how I act = GOOD] I never went into the complexities of the people actually liking the king. I wasn't saying either that it was good. I was merely pointing out that, hey, this is a possibility, maybe.
I do agree with the whole rebel thing. If you're a mean ruler, people will hate you, uprising, etc. If you could keep it in check, wouldn't that be wonderful, though?
What if you were a "mean king" but a good ruler?
I don't really have concrete examples in mind. What I say (type) are merely scenarios that might happen. Don't immediately assume that I agree with them. I'm just saying that they COULD happen. Not that they did or they will, but it's a possibility.
theresa rosario tan
hi18k
to theresa:
point taken. i acknowledge the possibility of having these kinds of kings, those who aren't righteous and idealistic. i am aware that these scenarios could happen. i understand what you said that mean kings could still attain power and this could be GOOD for them.
i just want to point out that for me, the welfare of the king's people matters and must be taken into consideration. after all, a king is responsible for his people. i guess what i'm saying is, it is better to be on the right and safe side so that you can decrease your chances of getting into trouble in the future. one should really find out how to be royal in his own fashion, but still keep in mind that it is good to have a peaceful relationship with the people. in my understanding of this law, one must act like a king the right way because it is through this that people will be more respectful towards that person.
i just want to stress that in attaining power, it is more preferable to do this the right way in order to earn other people's respect while at the same time, achieve one's goals and desires. why be the only one who is happy, when everyone can be happy? i mean, harmony and peace are good!
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
I can't believe how I still find myself not agreeing with most of the laws. I guess, I'm not much of a power-tripping person. Anyway...
It is already a given that you should act by how you want people to see you, it is also a given that the greatest accessory you can wear is confidence. But I think acting like something you are not will get back at you someday. I think the major rule for all of these laws of power is not to overdo it and some things should always be grounded on reality. But if acting like you can do some things helps you actually do the thing, I guess acting would not hurt after all.
As you can see, I'm kind of ambivalent when it comes to this law...
Leng Desuasido
Hi18 L
To Leng:
i would like to thank you for being honest. :) anyway, youre right about what you said that one has to act according to how he or she would like to be seen or treated by others. as this law states, "act like a king to be treated like one." youre also right in saying that having confidence can really help in getting others to respect you and treat you like a king. however, you mentioned something about "acting like something you are not." i would just like to point out that applying this law is not limited to people who pretend or people who try to be someone they are not. people who apply this law can also be people who BELIEVE that they are kings and high people. examples of these are people who believe that they are destined for greatness and success. take a look at my example of christopher columbus. he did not have the royal background but he believed in himself and knew that he was destined for greatness. from this example, i think it is safe to say that columbus was not pretending to be someone he was not. he believed he was meant to be a king, and so this was how he carried himself. i think that believing in oneself matters and has to be taken into account. having confidence can shine and radiate for others to notice. :) so i dont think that people should have this notion that people who act like a king are just pretending because for all we know, these people may really be perceiving themselves as kings on the inside. :)
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
One can't just act like a king in a snap, you don't see a beggar shopping at Gucci or Chanel. There has to be some substance to back up the claim of being a king, otherwise he would be though of as someone mocking the system.
Denis Flores
Hi 18K
If we were all to act like kings, what good with that do? We might end up living in a world where everyone's egos are all fed by their own pride and ambition. I believe that in order to be a "true king" one must not pretend to be someone he isn't. It's easy to say that you will start acting like a king since all you have to do is think that you're better than everyone else but in the long run you're only fooling yourself. I would rather change the term "acting like a king" into maximizing one's full potential. I think the main goal here is to go beyond our limitations and try to exceed the expectations we have on ourselves. We should all work on going beyond what we think we can only do and look further on the endless possibilities on what we are capable of doing.
Teri Marcelo
Hi18-K
If we were all to act like kings, what good will that do? We might end up living in a world where everyone's egos are all fed by their own pride and ambition. I believe that in order to be a "true king" one must not pretend to be someone he isn't. It's easy to say that you will start acting like a king since all you have to do is think that you're better than everyone else but in the long run you're only fooling yourself. I would rather change the term "acting like a king" into maximizing one's full potential. I think the main goal here is to go beyond our limitations and try to exceed the expectations we have on ourselves. We should all work on going beyond what we think we can only do and look further on the endless possibilities on what we are capable of doing.
Teri Marcelo
Hi18-K
"This rule must not be taken to extreme. By humiliating others, soaring to high, and being vulgar or arrogant, you are asking for trouble."
I absolutely agree with, Philip! Let's take Marie Antoinette as an example who became Queen of France by marrying the dauphin. No doubt, she tried her best to be loved by the people of France and acted very much like a queen. She, however, enjoyed being one a little too much.
Lavishly, she abused her title and lived as if life was a bed of roses. She was too satisfied in her own world that she could not even hear the cries of the French people beyond the palace gates. Selfishness made her ignorant about the nation's most important issues. She did not care enough and haughtily asked them to "Eat cake" as a solution. This arrogance was not tolerated by the people and they eventually lost so much respect for her. Instead of seeing Marie Antoinette as the mother of their country, they saw her as a despicable and oppressive leader. She was no longer treated the way a queen should be treated. They hated her so much, so much that they only saw it sensible to guillotine her. This is what living excessively like a king can do and surely, no one would ever want to follow the same path.
Krizia Javate
Hi18-K
To Denis:
i get your point. however, that's not what this law is about. it's not about being pretentious and acting like someone youre not. it seems as though some people have missed the essence of this law. of course, if youre going to act like a king, it must HAVE SUBSTANCE. take a look at my example of columbus. i truly believe that his acting like a king had substance, don't you think? you must believe in yourself and really project a person of greatness. if it seems genuine and regal in the eyes of people, they might respect you in return. that is why, you have to INSPIRE others to give you this respect. how you carry yourself and appear to others matters. be confident in a good way! :)
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
To Teri:
i don't think that this law should be negatively thought of. just like my comment to denis, this law is not about being pretentious and fooling others. it's not about acting just for the sake of acting. it must have substance and must be viewed by others as something great. in acting like a king, it is important to embody a person of greatness because this is one way how a person can gain respect from others. one must be confident in a kingly way.
you're right in saying that one must not think that he or she is better than everybody else. youre also right that one must not have too much pride. that is why at the end of my entry, i mentioned something about balance. this law must certainly not be taken to extreme to the point where you humiliate others and rise too high.
what you mentioned about maximizing one's full potential, for me, is an excellent insight. people should indeed not be limited and instead, known and make use of their capabilities. it is important to work hard to reach your goal. columbus was a man without royal background. however, he did not let this serve as a limitation. he believed that he was destined for greatness, so this was what he embodied. other people perceived this positively, and they decided to help or respect him. with this law, it is important to see that each and every person has the potential to succeed in life if he or she just tries.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
To Krizia:
the example you gave of Marie Antoinette, i feel, is an EXCELLENT one if youre going to relate it to taking this law into extreme. no doubt that this example displays what happens when being extreme happens, that's why it's just the perfect example. arrogance and selfishness are involved, traits that an abusive and unjust ruler would have. certainly, no one would want to respect this kind of person right? balance is important! taking this law to extreme means trouble.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18-K
To Philip
it's not about being pretentious and acting like someone youre not.
i beg to disagree -- this is exactly what the Law is about. In my studies as a media student, we understand that what you appear to be -- in this case, how you act -- affects what you do, how you act and how others perceive you. However, just because you act like a king, it doesn't necessarily mean that you will be treated like a king -- there's no law that guarantees that people will act the way you want them to act.
this law assumes that there's a 1 to 1 casual relationship between one's actions and other's reactions -- in that sense, the law fails. because even if you take the pseudo-modern approach and believe in servant-leadership (in which case you serve others and others take you as an example to serve others, in turn) there's always the looming threat of misinterpretation: people won't always understand how you act and your King-Acting interpretation won't always coincide with the typical king-actions people expect.
kyra ballesteros hi18k
to kyra:
so youre saying that this law is about being pretentious, deceiving others, and being someone else? in that case, you've totally missed the point of my blog. did you even read it?
i get your point that even though someone acts like a king, it will not automatically mean that that person will be treated like a king in return. yes you can't really have full and total control of what other people think, thats there's always the possibility of misinterpretation. i get that. but the beauty of this law is that it INCREASES the chances that people will respect you and treat you well, given that you act the right way. this is where you can apply being royal in your own fashion. each person must try hard in discovering what methods will work well for him. one must know how he or she can earn the respect of others. this means that one must as much as possible, act in a way that is in accordance to what other people like. it's about acting the right way so that other people will like you. my point is, if you do your best in acting in a regal and dignified way, there will be GREATER CHANCES of getting the respect from others.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
I remember something from my debate class way back in highschool. We were asked for an impromptu speech about this plantation in Bulacan, a big controversy back then apparently. On the platform, I rambled on and on about an issue I was not aware of but acted as if I know what I was talking about. In the end, I got an okay grade.
The point of my story was that I agree with what you said about acting like how you would like to be treated. People with high self-esteem are more likely to be treated with respect as to people who would shy down and fold. From individual people, let's take a group of people- think Carthaganians for example. They were regarded as weak because they acted weak.
As in anything though, I believe that the big BUT here (heehee) would be: but you need to not appear that you are trying too hard. I think people would only respond to genuineness. For example, you have a guy who wants to be treated like a really smart person. In that way, he acts like he knows things for sure and every test, he would say that he puts little effort in studying to make himself appear more smart and repeat it over and over. That would be pushing the role. And we get the feel that he is not being genuine, therefore, we don't tolerate it and rather than treating him like a king, we do the opposite.
To Philip:
the problem with this law is how specifically it states that you act like a monarch when history has given us tyrants -- absolute abusers of power. i understand that, in an ideal world, you gain respect because you give respect. and your point about acting a certain way to gain people's affections about you ("like" you) -- you can't please everyone. there's no way one person can act that everyone else will find completely acceptable (that's why social stigma is such a hard, difficult struggle, that's why deviants exist, that's why there're even monarchs who uphold societal norms). given that we are unable ACT in a WAY that produces respect from everyone, even if you ACT in a way which people recognize as respectful, there will always be people who find your actions cliche, coquettish.
besides, if you FOLLOW this law, you aren't being SINCERE. and insincerity is the root of distrust and there is no respect without trust.
kyra ballesteros hi18k
- Marion Causing, Hi18-K (darn, forgot to include my name again)
to marion:
exactly, exactly, and exactly.
i like the debate example because this was a situation where you made things work out well. you made use of what you were given and in the end, you became successful. see, your confidence clearly radiated outward and other people noticed. you got a good grade! congrats! i mean, nobody wants to see a person with his head bowed down, someone shy and with low self-esteem. very UNINSPIRING.
want to be treated like a king? then do your job. having genuine confidence can increase chances of being treated with respect.
yes, one should not try too hard and overdo things. one should not take this law to extreme. its important to be genuine. one must have class and really appear believable. arrogance is not welcomed in this law. one must have the right kind and amount of confidence. do what works best for you. :)
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
To Kyra:
that's why i said this law INCREASES chances of being treated well and with respect. i am certainly aware that it is difficult to please everybody because no matter how hard you try, there MIGHT be that that one person who still does not like the way you act. well in a situation like this, one should just do his best and see what happens. as long as that person knows deep inside that he was being regal, confident, and kingly, then he should not worry regardless of what happens. and fine, if one really can't earn the respect of everyone, then why not go for majority? it's really about doing your best and knowing what you did was right, while maintaining a genuine sense of self.
and what are you talking about that following this law is not being sincere? HUH? did you totally miss the point? naturally, if you were to follow this law, you must have substance. it seems as though you are limiting this law to people who pretend. this should not be the case. don't people who believe in themselves deserve a chance? so are you saying that columbus was not sincere?
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
this law is all about believing in yourself. but it's kinda weird how you have to think "in your own fashion"... your ways might not be attractive to them. and this might result with you getting not being treated like a king at all.
and if you try to please them just so they'd treat you like a king, it won't work. people will just spite you. and i think that's cheap. not kingly at all. :)
jaclyn yap
hi18 k
To Jaclyn:
being royal in your own fashion is nice in the sense that it tells people to find methods and techniques that will work well for them and will work for their benefit. in reply to what you said, i just think that one's ways must be a combination of what people will like or relate to, and of what captures the essence of you. you must be able to radiate positive energy to other people while making sure that you stick to who you are. so in choosing methods, they must satisfy you and others. one must look at the big picture and go from there.
if you want people to treat you like a king, it must come from this driving force from within. one must not act like a king just for the sake of it. one must have substance and determination to earn respect.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
Yes, one should indeed act like a king to be treated like one. In doing so, modesty must be his essential attribute. By exhibiting humility, people will see that his intentions are positive. If a person is otherwise displaying a false front, it will sooner or later become manifest in his actions. I therefore believe that only he who is sincere is worthy of people's respect and attention.
Monica Copuyoc
Hi18- L
Thanks for commenting on my law philip
I also think this ties up with my law: Re-Create yourself. a derivative i might say.
Like i wrote there, i think two factors are valuable here:
1 your image
2 how society views you
it's not telling you to be totally fake. i guess what it's trying to say is to play your role. you can't expect people to follow what you say when they don't respect you for what you're doing. in order to gain respect you should at least create an image that demands one for the people to have that respect. you shouldn't completely change yourself, just find a way to present your "own image" in a respectable way.
JR Resma
Hi18 K
I agree with this law because it is a matter of self assertion. For the people who already have the respect it is a matter of asserting yourself to others. To Christopher Columbus, maybe he felt that he deserves much more than what he had and he asserted himself as royalty, the feeling that he really wanted and look how it turned out for him.
Villamor O. Dagamac Jr. L
Philip! :) i think i like this law. It's pretty simple. Just act the way you want to be treated. This reminds me of myself when i was younger :p My parents still sort of treated me like a baby even when i was in high school. They wouldn't allow me to go to overnight trips because they think i'm not independent yet. My mom would always remind me of stuff that i have to bring, things i have to do, etc. so eventually, i got annoyed. Then i started acting like i can do everything alone, talking very confidently and carrying myself well. That was a week before an out-of-town trip i wanted to go to with my barkada. Fortunately, i was able to convince my parents with my actions that i'm independent, and i got them to allow me to go to my first overnight trip. Haha. This is a cool and helpful tactic ;)
Dana Cammayo
Hi18-L
To Monica:
very interesting. i like the connection you made between acting like a king and having humility. it just goes to show that all people need to be humble. acting like a king is not just about being on top and standing way above everyone else. one should not be too full of himself. there is a kingliness in people who are humble and honest too. it is important to know who you are as a person, and that being sincere will make you succeed.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
To JR:
youre welcome! :) thanks for also commenting on my entry! :) i can definitely see the similarity between your law and mine. the two factors you enumerated are excellent ones and really matter for laws like ours. yes, this law is certainly not about faking. it's about knowing who you are and connecting it to the person you want to embody. it is important to create an image that sits well with others so that in return, you can be respected. :)
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
To Villamor:
great point. i like what you said about assertion. one should ask himself how bad he really wants it, while still thinking about the common good. one must really make the effort and take things to the next level. one must have that driving force and determination to make things happen.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
I agree with this law. In fact, this law can already be seen in everyday life. Just go to the malls and you can see the difference in the type of people shopping there. Take for example Power Plant and SM Mega Mall. When I entered Power Plant, I can already see the difference in the people that shopped there compared to the people in SM. The people in Power Plant have a certain air to them. It is seen through the way they stand, walk and compose themselves. Acting regal can bring power.
Sean Co
Hi 18K
To Dana:
i totally love your example. it goes to show how this law can concretely be applied in our everyday lives. it was a win-win situation. you got what you wanted and your parents saw how much you've developed good qualities. you really embodied a kingly image and your parents got the message. you genuinely carried yourself so well and it came to the point that they treated you like a king. excellent. i really admire your determination and it paid off. you made things happen while still being you. :)
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
To Sean:
good example. just like my previous comment to dana, this law can really be seen and applied in everyday life. your example was simple, but it's very true and real. one can really see the distinction between people who act like a king and those who do not. it's all about projection. in your example, one cannot really say that the people in Power Plant are arrogant. it's that air of confidence.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
Self-confidence is a plus, and is definitely one of the traits I look for in a good leader. But other things must complement an air of authority--qualities like reliability, understanding and flexibility; too much of the kingly attitude may distance you from others and make you come off as aloof and condescending.
Peep Warren
Hi18-L
Remember the lead character in Catch Me If You Can? All he did was believe he was something and everyone else did too.
Honestly, I think it would be nice to have a king who acted like a commoner, but I guess people need someone to look up to. But there's a fine line between kingly and downright obnoxious. I guess the idea is to step up. In a group project, for example, someone always starts telling the others what to do. and without that person, the group just doesn't do anything. no one needs to appoint or elect this leader. all he or she has to do is act in control. it's different from acting like he should be worshipped, which is the dangerous kind of "acting royal" that raf pointed out.
Du, L
To Philip
(YOUR LAW IS DOING WELL!)
I agree that you have to be dignified and believe in yourself, become confident. i also agree that people with confidence should be given the same chance as everyone else however i think you missed my point which was that you can't force people to respect you, you can't please everyone. This law merely assumes that people react in the same fashion to a single stimuli.
kyra ballesteros hi18k
Ah, this reminds me of "The Emperor's New Clothes"... You don't have to be royal to earn respect, I mean, if the royals themselves can make such fools of themselves, what makes it different for us mere commoners?
Sometimes humility is what earns a person's respect...It is something they will admire rather than being repulsed by vanity...
Gail Lim
Hi 18-K
Just an interesting thought: the prince and the pauper is an excellent example of this law.
i also think, because I'm a communication major, that this law emphasizes the relationship between the image and reality. before media became an overriding presence, man had to change reality (culture, power structure or hegemony) before being able to change stereotypes, images and popular culture. Now, a change in the image affects the culture because of the propagation of image. in the same way that merely ACTING like a king effectively MAKES you a king.
i also understand that the DIGNITY aspect is being emphasized by this law -- that despite one's predicament, one should always behave with dignity and respect for others and oneself.
kyra ballesteros hi18 K
To Peep:
yes exactly. that is why this law must not be done in extreme. it is important to practice balance. you don't want to be too above other people and appear like youre so better than everyone else because people might not treat you well. you want to gain other people's respect.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
To Nikka:
someone should take the leader image because he can be the model whom others can look up to. someone needs to provide order and direction. things will likely work out well if that leader acts the right way. he must be genuine and have good intentions, intentions that are geared for the good. there must be purpose and desire aimed for success.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
To Kyra:
i know that even if you try really hard to act like a king, there can still be people who wont treat you like one. that is why this law INCREASES the chances of you being treated like one. i mean, would you rather act like a king or not act like one at all? of course you want to embody a king because you will likely be respected more.
image is really important. truly, "how you carry yourself reflects what you think of yourself." if you act in a dignified way, people will admire it and give you the treatment that is due.
-Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
To Gail:
yes, correct. it is really up to you. you decide how you will create your own image. it's about presentation and projection. nevermind if a person's poor to begin with or whatever. if that person believes he or she is destined for greatness, it will be manifested in the way he or she acts.
Philip Albert T. Verde
Hi18 K
This law may work for some, but it is not universal. Confidence will get you far, but only so far. It cannot just be merely out of perception or the image you give yourself. You can have a set of ideals, but you also have to work to achieve these ideals. Indeed, you need to be poised and respectable (which begins with the self) to be treated with decency and respect; but i do not believe that acting like a king will make people treat you like one, especially if you cannot be farther from being a king. I believe that many delusional people are born from this law. Just turn your television sets to star world Wednesdays and Thursdays at 6pm (with a prime time telecast the same day!), and you'll see what i mean. :-P Haha! Hope i didn't come off as too "Simon-Cowell-esque".
Elise Noelle Anne Lim
Hi18 Section L
To Philip:
I get what you're saying. Balance is key. I guess you have to know first the true definition of a king before applying it to your own personality. A king isn't just a simple title placed to the high and mighty, it is not a means to tell people how great he is compared to them or a mere position of authority as well.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but what you're saying here is that you have to have faith in yourself that you can achieve whatever all your aspirations and be whoever you want to be. Columbus is a great example of how a man can take charge of his own destiny by simply believing he can. Optimism and tenacity is the key and people must start realizing the true value of these traits if they want to start progressing in life.
Teri Marcelo
Hi 18-K
I most certainly agree with your point. I remember reading a book before about the same idea. Acting like something one dreams of may help in achieving it. The efforts may require loads of work but if in the end it all works out, then why not do it? People need to believe that they are destined for greatness to be great. After all, how can one achieve a dream if they don't act on it. I believe that leaders start from dreamers.
And yes, it should definitely not come to the point of destroying others and being arrogant. Nothing too extreme would help.
Czarina Kathryne Masagca
Hi18-L
I must say, I agree with what you said about this rule not being taken to the extreme. Yes, it is important to people that the person leading them appear more than typical. they want someone who is worthy of leading them towards the right direction; not merely another commoner who appears to know just as much as they do. Authority deserves a respectable figure; one that shines of honor and character. This, however, should not, as you mentioned, be taken too far as self-belief and pride could easily border on arrogance and self-righteousness. these, as a result would simply lead to the loss of the respect of ones followers.
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